The best approach to a relationship with someone who has much to offer you, including self-healing, especially when you don't know if you'll be able to earn it, is with humility. You have to be willing and open to be taught something, actually even to be surprised, to change how you relate even to yourself. In this respect, and maybe a few others, the relationship with one's cells, organs, and systems, is no different.
         It's like learning to drive a car, a car whose immensity of power you have no idea of until you actually begin to get the feel of the wheel and the pedals. It's like driver training and the kids, who are the persona of the cells and organs and systems, are going to teach you how to drive because they want to, and they know that deep inside you want to -- because you are them -- but you have forgotten what it's like to be aware at that level. You were there when you were in the womb and for a time afterwards, and maybe in your sleep. Women know something about this when focused on their bodily cycles, but not necessarily about what we're looking into here.
         The kids aren't trying to hide knowledge or power or anything else from you. They want to share it all with you. But you must earn the right by meeting them on their level and learning what they have to teach you. Although you once knew as an infant, you soon had to learn how to externalise awareness, to operate and survive "in the world." That often included attitudes, and the postures that go with them, that do not work when engaging in or maintaining the aware mind-body relationship. This relationship requires an awareness balanced between internal and external. And there is a relationship of this type to seek between you and the kids, like a resonance or wavelength, and maintaining this is like riding wave.
         The way to go into this communion with the kids so you can learn to drive a little from the cellular level, is via the attitude I'm trying to impart here, via the breath, and via a kind of relaxed but confident focus. Part of the attitude is a confidence about knowing that eventually you'll find the wave, that once you find the wave, you can ride it for as long as you can maintain the right attitude. You gain the confidence by practicing the approach, finding the wave, and more and more steadily riding it with the focus, which carries and balances the attitude and breath with the wave.
         Another part of the attitude is accepting that you have to learn to ride the wave before you can drive or control the relationship to any degree. In fact, any attachment to driving before you really appreciate what it's like to ride will prevent attunement to the wavelength. On the other hand, it can be very healing just to ride the wave. The wave is there to be found, yet it is also created by the approach to the kids, because that's a big part of how relationships are formed. Go in humble, willing to be surprised, to be taught something, to be led into a rapport that will change your life.
         One more suggestion: Once "on the wave" (or in any case, actually), you might then extend appreciation for whatever state the cellular spaces are currently in, and then fill that space in with light and love. I say "appreciation" because these cells, particularly the muscle fibers, have always responded to our own conscious or unconscious mind's guidance (with the exceptions of DNA or other structural related limitations), whether or not we might judge the guidance at the time to be competent or not for whatever reason. After the appreciation, you might want to experiment with extending compassion into these spaces. For elaboration on this approach, please see the section, "Attitude-setting Prose."

Note for Clarifying Context:
         Putting this body-mind relationship in context with person-to-person relationships may be helpful in applying the above metaphors in Tensing Yoga. Some of the things to be considered in this regard:
         a) Perhaps the most important difference is that the relationship with one's cells is strongly effected by, indeed greatly represents, the relationship that we have with our bodies -- that is, we as Westerners with western ideas of health and personal and medical body-interaction, etc -- not to mention this being that of a male with his male body, and of a female with her female body. For most westerners, we think we know all we need to know about one's body, the rest we just turn over to the "experts." Many men and women nowadays could at least pass a written test about how to respect the opposite gender. But few of us could do the same when it comes to the real needs of our cells.
         b) Further, the cells don't converse with us in our own most often used language. At least males and females both usually try to use some version of the same language (even considering the differences between the "Mars & Venus" dialects).
         c) Comparatively, the relationship with one's cells presents a kind of paradox in how we approach them. This is partly because of the above. It is also because, on the one hand, the cells are more like children (our own inner children), and respond like children to one's inner parent. And because, on the other hand, they have a great store of wisdom to offer in very certain ways, a wisdom that can enlighten one, even provide another path to the understanding of All That One Is. At the very least, the connection with them can provide a definite path to self-healing.

  Attitudinal & Sensory Focus vrs. Mental Imagery with Tensing Yoga:

          Using specifically applicable affirmations or attitudinal approaches in concert with Tensing Yoga can be particularly effective. However, for optimal benifit, the mental focus (on affirmations and/or visual imagery) should not be used at the expense of effective attitudinal preparation and on sensory focus on the muscles and fibers, on the physical/sensory awareness. To keep from doing that, try alternating the focus in this way: initiate the session with the more mental/imagery focus, then do the body awareness focus (essential to this whole approach), then end with another application of the mental/imagery. First do one wholeheartedly, then switch fully and completely to the other. After a few sessions of this, the attitudinal application will naturally influence your approach with the exercise.

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"Communications and Healing:	
TRUSTING THE CONNECTIONS"
 

	"Healing Work", Connecting the points,	 Connecting the families,
Connecting the children,	Connecting the parents, 
					all inside oneself.	
They all KNOW what to do, more "perfectly" than one can concieve 	
	(after all, they are the Mind of God - in form). 	 
 And with PRESENCE,	they do what they know.		
		All the atoms, cells, organs, and systems...	
	They're all good kids, 	doing what my own mind has told them -
		 whether it's according to what works in the long run or not.
	Many thousands of messages from thousands of thoughts
		makes for thousands of feelings over time...
			bringing the families together...
So it's not always so simple.	
		But finding the patterns - 	
	and people communicate even as they may try not to
			(you can't not communicate) -	
	and especially when one is in need - even if one is not aware of the need,
			even if one believes one is not supposed to need, 	
			even if one tries to communicate another need, 	
		if you really listen long enough, 	
they will commmunicate the need that is truely there.
	And since the healing occurs when connections are made within one, 	
	and since the connections are made,
		as the children and parents communicate - 	
all inside one Self...
The "healer" needs only to listen and mediate, facilitate an environment 	
 that allows and encourages what would otherwise happen naturally --
	bringing the families together.
	And it does for the most part to "perfection"
		-- considering our place in evolution.		
	And it would be so -- without doing time & space on the Earth plane	
		-- in, for, and between all the other parts of us ALL --
	were it not for the messages -
old ones all, mimic'd or self created or from others in ONE's experience -
	that we have taken in and had stand on the bridges
	like censoring sentries
	between our inner worlds
as if those worlds were some foreign to us,
		and God didn't know where else to put them --

"Can't Trust", you say?
	Experience - with and without limitation - how else to learn ?	
and what if everybody - and all their cells and organs,
		both (inner) children and parents - communicated efficiently,
			and we all knew what we all	t r u e l y	n e e d e d ?		
		Well then, how -- else with honor -- could we act --
			bringing the families together ?
		And as one learns to trust one's own Self 	
	(each of the parts as we come to know the whole being),
	we may learn to trust others -
					at least to be themselves.
		And knowing oneself, 	
one knows more about what brings circumstances,
	and what kinds of situations come with various people,
	loving them for their experience that brought them to you,
		in the way that creates the experience that you share with them.
	One cannot not communicate, so why not listen -- to self as well ?	
	We tell stories,
		make conversation that helps us to laugh at our inner conversations
and to understand our own contradictions.
 		Someday we may each learn to speak 	
		who we ARE - feelings and all, 	and know that it is safe -
		even if someone seems to insist on percieving the world
				only from his/her own experience, different from our own.
Perhaps, as we L-earn each other's trust/truth,	
	we open to real-eye-zing our potent-I-all.	
We seem to learn the best and the most at the point of paradox --
	at the place where we struggle 	
		for more clarity and definition, or diffusion and connectedness --	
			 and here, we might gleen how the ends of the world meet, 	
Bringing the Families Together...



prose and "Chalice Tapistry" background art by Christopher Pringer