EMOTIONS

Exerpted from the book, HOW TO ENJOY ALL OF YOUR LIFE, by Phill Laut

[ With the exception of a few promotional statements at the very end, this excerpt is primarily educational, and wonderful food for thought. - Chris Pringer ]

    Emotions themselves are generally a result of resisting something.  The emotion will only continue being an emotion for as long as you continue resisting it.  If you allow yourself to surrender completely to an emotion, and enjoy it, it will integrate and you'll suddenly find yourself in a good mood.  An integrated emotion is not exactly an emotion.  Some examples:

    Happiness means surrendering to what is so.  In the models we use, happiness is not considered an emotion.

    Sadness comes from resisting a past change or from resisting the fact that something you are experiencing now is passing irrevocably into the past.  When a change that happened in the past is made wrong, it is interpreted as "loss".  If you surrender to your feeling of sadness you will end up with a pleasant memory, enjoyable feelings, and gratitude.  If you resist a pleasant memory you will get sadness.

     Anger is a result of resisting your "purpose" by which we mean something you feel you must do.  For instance, suppose you are watching the Super Bowl and you are happily munching potato chips and drinking beer.  Right when things are getting pleasurably tense and an important play is happening, somebody rings your doorbell.  If you are clear that your purpose is to watch the game and you ignore the door, then you will be happy, not angry.  If you are clear that answering the door is more important than watching the game and you surrender to that task you will be happy, not angry.  But if you think you are obligated to answer the door and what you really want to do is watch the game, then that despicable dolt who rang your bell had better watch out!  If you include your anger in your enjoyment of the present moment, you will again be happy with your visitor.  Integrated anger is purposefulness.  Resisted purposefulness is anger.

    Fear comes from imagining a future possibility and resisting it.  When fear integrates, what you have is certainty that you will do whatever it takes to prevent anything that is not in alighment with your goals from happening.  Either you realize that you had nothing to fear or else you become enthusiastic about preventing it.  If you try to feel safe without preparing for the future, you will experience either fear or suppression.  Fear is extremely important to effectiveness.  If you are persisting in doing something that is likely to cause some bad result for you in the future, you ought to feel afraid.  Suppressing fear prevents you from taking appropriate action and is therefore very dangerous.  All it takes to integrate fear is to experience it in detail and include it in your celebration of your existence in that moment; if you do that, the rest will happen automatically.  Integrated fear is enthusiastic preparation for the future.  If you resist preparing for the future you will get fear.  There is further discussion of the appropriate use of fear in Park VI of this book.

    Frustration and boredom are closely related to anger:

    Frustration is a result of resisting humility.  If you try to do something and get the wrong result, you have a choice:  be humbled or be frustrated.  Humility means having a good attitude about your limitations, your humanness.  Frustration means trying to insist that you don't have any limitations, even when you've just butted your head against one at 60 MPH!  If you surrender to frustration you will get humility.  If you resist humility you will get frustration.

    Another word for humility is "self-esteem."  Some people interpret "high self-esteem" to mean having an exaggerated sense of self-importance or having a big ego.  They think that they display high self-esteem when they look, to themselves and others, like they don't have any psychological problem left.  This is obviously not a very good way to go about it, because it does not create a context of loving oneself unconditionally, and because it does not create any context for letting suppressed negativity surface in a gentle way.  Humility means accepting fully that you are a human being and loving yourself for that.  It eliminates feeling superior to people or inferior to people.  It also facilitates a person in doing whatever work there is to do, rather than leaving it to someone else who is not "superior to the task."  If there is any higher virtue than humility, we do not know what it is.

    By the way, the safest thing in the world to procrastinate is humbling yourself.  Rest assured that it you put it off long enough the Universe will do the job for you!

    Boredom is a result of resisting emotional activation.  It usually occurs when you procrastinate doing something that you know is going to bring up some emotion that you are avoiding.  When you can't think of anything better to do, but you still refuse to do the thing you are avoiding, you get bored.  Next time you're bored, notice what emotion is really right below the surface and plunge into it!  You won't be bored for long and you'll get your work done too!  Surrender to boredom and you'll always get activation.  Resist activation and you'll always get boredom.  Boredom is an extremely good thing to integrate.  People are often at their most destructive when they are driven by suppressing boredom.  Remember that our emotions exist for our pleasure and convenience.

INTEGRATION WITHOUT USING ANY TECHNIQUES

    In normal day-to-day living, people do occasionally integrate without knowing anything about it.  The best example of this is that most adolescents make their parents wrong for all kinds of things; when adolescents grow up and start dealing with adult situations, they gradually make their parents less and less wrong.  Whenever they stop making their parents wrong for something they get massive integration with all the benefits usually associated with integration.  Unfortunately, most people who don't know any techniques for causing integration suppress a whole lot more than they integrate.

    By the way, if you are still making your parents wrong for some things, then you are very fortunate indeed!  It means that no matter how wonderful your life is now, you can make it much better in a straightforward and relatively easy way.  If you clear everything up with your parents, then you will also have cleared up most of the important stuff with yourself!  In Part IV of this book you will find some suggestions for improving your relationship with your parents.

    Rebirthing is the most efficient way to integrate a make-wrong duality because Rebirthing works at the level of physical patterns of energy.  Your mind will fool you for years at a time but your body won't fool you at all.  Your feelings are always right there just waiting for you to explore them and celebrate them.  The breathing component of Rebirthing exists to facilitate you in feeling your suppressed feelings.

    You cannot have happiness in opposition to anything.  Rebirthing, bit by bit, eliminates your specific oppositions.

    Integration always makes a person both happier and more powerful.  Happier because it means the person is making less wrong in each moment.  More powerful because it frees the person from compulsive, subconsciously motivated behavior.

    The message in all of this is actually very simple:  You are alive in this moment whether you like it or not; if you resist life you will be miserable and weak; if you surrender willingly to the challenge of life you will be happy and free.

    Rebirthing is the advanced science of converting resistence to enthusiasm.